well-known spiritual axiom says to "keep it we must give
it away." And we don't need to have very much in order to
pass it on. In LAA, as in most 12-Step programs, service
and carrying the message is the spiritual foundation of our program.
Even newcomers have something to offer others. Still, since many
love addicts are also codependent, we cannot ignore the fact that
in early recovery there may be a fear of service. Will it be draining?
Didn't I do too much in my last relationship? Shouldn't I just
be taking care of myself right now? These are all valid questions.
Moreover, LAA cannot survive without service and if you do it
in moderation it not only feels good, it is good for your self-esteem.
Most psychologists agree that altruism is linked to feelings of
self-worth. Just remember . . . "moderation in all things."
So if you are a member of LAA, we encourage you to share your
"experience, strength and hope" with others even if
you don't think you have anything to offer, and even if you think
you have already done enough good deeds to last a life time. You
will not regret it.
had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried
to carry this message to others . . ." Step 12
group has but one primary purpose—to offer a safe place
to recover from love addiction and to carry the message of recovery
to those who still suffer." Tradition 5
matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our
experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and
self-pity will disappear . . ." Page 84, Alcoholics Anonymous