addiction comes in many forms. Some love addicts carry a torch for
unavailable people. Some love addicts obsess when they fall in love.
Some love addicts get addicted to the euphoric effects of romance.
Others cannot let go of a toxic relationship even if they are unhappy,
depressed, lonely, neglected or in danger. Some love addicts are
codependent and others are narcissistic. Some love addicts use sex
to manage feelings; others are sexually anorexic. What we all have
in common is that we are powerless over our distorted thoughts,
feelings and behavior when it comes to love, fantasies and relationships.
Still, there is hope. Through self-honesty, open-mindedness, willingness,
and the 12-steps of LAA, we can recover. We can do together what
we cannot do alone.We can grow and change in the sunlight of the
spirit. Welcome to LAA. Welcome home!
of 2019, LAA is still alive and well. We are also growing, epecially
overseas. We need volunteers to start new meetings and to join the
LAA International Committee.
on the the links below for more information.
Some are underlined and some are not.
To Start Your Own Meeting!
Codependents & Love Addicts
Questions: Are You a Love Addict?
the 12 Steps of Recovery
Step Inventory Guide
for Love Addicts
Kinds of Love Addicts
Love Addiction the Same as Sex Addiction?
Steps to Building Self-Esteem
12-Steps to a Stronger Spiritual Life
recovery is a state in which you are able to love yourself as much
as you love others. You are guided by a power greater than yourself
who knows what is best for you. You are growing and changing. Love
is a want not a need. Romantic love enhances your life but does
not determine your self-worth. Most of the time you are serene and
think clearly when it comes to relationships. Your behavior is sane
and marked by emotional sobriety. You do not "love" too
much. You do not "do" too much for others You do not chase
after unavailable people. You do not put up with ambivalent people
like narcissists or seductive withholders. You have researched healthy
relationships so you know what your goals are. You stay close to
people who are also in recovery in order to avoid relapse. You never
take recovery for granted or become complacent.
addiction is "cunning, baffling, and powerful." It lies
in wait for us when we let our guard down. Above all else, you put
your well being ahead of your romantic attachments. You understand
that romantic love is not enough to sustain you. It is like a flower
without roots. You need love and compatibility with someone who
can reciprocate. Finally, you put an end to all triangles. Monogamy
and recovery are synonymous.
& 12-Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous