Recovery for Love Addicts
In LAA, recovery is a state in which you are able to love yourself
as much as you love others.
You are guided by a power greater than yourself who knows what
is best for you.
You are growing and changing.
Love is a want not a need.
Romantic love enhances your life but does not determine your self-worth.
Most of the time you are serene and think clearly when it comes
Your behavior is sane and marked by emotional sobriety.
You do not "love" too much.
You do not "do" too much for others
You do not chase after unavailable people.
You do not put up with ambivalent people like narcissists or seductive
You have researched healthy relationships so you know what your
You stay close to people who are also in recovery in order to
You never take recovery for granted or become complacent.
Above all else, you put your well being ahead of your romantic
You understand that romantic love is not enough to sustain you.
It is like a flower without roots.
You need love and compatibility with someone who can reciprocate.
Finally, you put an end to all triangles. Monogamy and recovery
addiction is "cunning, baffling, and powerful." It lies
in wait for us when we let our guard down.
newcomer to LAA recently sent us the following question: “Alcoholics
don’t drink. OA's have a food plan. DA's have a financial
plan. What about LAA's? Are we just on our own to figure out what
recovery means to us?
LAA may be a new fellowship, but we are not alone. We are going
to figure out as a group what recovery is for us. In the meantime,
here are some basic guidelines for newcomers.
recover, love addicts must change how they think and behave.
Consider the following advice.
Honestly admit that you are a love addict.
Reach out for help whether it a meeting or the message board.
Get a sponsor or pair up with another recovering love addict (same
gender as you).
Start working the steps. LAA has a Step Guide.
Educate yourself about love addiction so you know exactly what
has to be changed.
Stay connected even you are feeling others. This will avoid relapse.
Begin to "trudge road of happy destiny." (From the book
of Alcoholics Anonymous, page 164)
happy destiny is not a place in the future. You are on it now
with your fellow love addicts.