is a program of moderation when it comes to love. Our goal is
healthy love and healthy relationships. It is not a program of
abstinence except when you are obsessed and in withdrawal.
are also times when no contact is impossible. If you have financial
ties, share a business, work together, or have children it is
really difficult. Sometimes no contact just does not work because
you have unfinished business.
is important for all of on this board to refrain from judging
those who choose limited contact. The shock of no contact can
be just to much for some.
Often people need to wean themselves for the sake of their sanity.
Other times, with a child, limited contact with healthy boundaries
is the norm.
is harder for some than others. Codependents, especially, may
opt for limited contact because their is a family and/or extended
contact involves healthy boundaries. Do not fool yourself into
believing going back into your codependency or love addiction
is just limited contact.
contact is only a suggestion for some situations. LAA has never
made it official. The idea began with one of our early members
who was a love addict and able to end all contact without having
to give up her job or business or child.